You survived the holidays; all the gift wrapping, food making, family gatherings and financial strain of the holiday season is over. You and your spouse discussed divorce a few months ago, but you decided to wait until after the holidays.
You are not the only couple ready to begin the divorce process. The divorce rate rapidly spikes in January, as couples are looking for a new beginning after a stressful holiday season.
How can you prepare for divorce?
The complexity of divorce varies significantly on a case-by-case basis. Couples who have drifted apart and are on the same page regarding their separation may be able to file an uncontested divorce.
If possible, an uncontested divorce is often the best option for a married couple, it saves them time and money. It is only an option for couples who agree to divorce on amicable terms; they must agree on a child custody arrangement if they have children and decide how to split their assets.
What could complicate the process?
When a married couple cannot agree on all aspects of their divorce, the process may be complicated. Here are some issues that frequently cause disputes:
- Child custody
- Child support
- Asset division
- Financial planning (spousal support)
- Unresolved feelings of anger, contempt, betrayal, etc.
If a couple often argues while they are married, they may be likely to dispute the divorce process as well.
How can the process be amicable?
Undoubtedly, an uncontested, amicable end to a marriage is often the best option for divorcing couples, yet not all couples are able to end their marriage on good terms.
Whether the divorce is uncontested or contested, there are a few tips that may make the process easier for all parties involved:
- Communicate and try to cooperate with your partner
- Write down what you would like to discuss, try to remain calm
- Reach out to friends, family members, a therapist, or support group
- Remember that yourself and your children should remain your top priority
The divorce process may be emotional but keeping the future in mind may be helpful. Working with an experienced divorce attorney may also help you achieve your ultimate goal.